Episode 52: Real Life vs the Highlight Reel
Don’t get caught up in other people’s highlight reels. When people post about their wonderful vacations we don’t share that the cat ran away as we were trying to leave, we don’t share that we packed two bottles of conditioner and no shampoo. They don’t show that they lost their minds trying to get the kids to help get everything packed. They don’t show you that someone got sick and tossed their cookies all over a walmart parking lot.
Mom’s get frustrated and then we hide and cry in the shower when we get overwhelmed or stressed. We try to show up as brave and strong and we don’t want anyone to see that we are struggling.
But we need to normalize the struggles in life. We need to make it acceptable to share that we need help. We need our kids to know that we have our own struggles and that we may get upset but that we will problem solve
Life is messy, really messy and we all need to remember that it is messy for everyone not just for us.
Sometimes we look at what other people appear to have and we get jealous. But we need to remember to keep ourselves in check because we actually have no idea what is going on with those individuals and honestly it’s none of our business!
Sometimes Father’s day is a trigger for people. You see all of the family’s together and sometimes think that families are supposed to be a mom, a dad, 2.5 kids and a dog. But that’s not what families are. Families are the people that surround each other, show up for each other and take care of each other. That looks different in every situation.
Sometimes our natural families are unhealthy, sometimes our blended families are unhealthy. Sometimes you are blessed with a bonus family. You may not get to decide who you are biologically related to but you do get to decide who gets to be a part of your life. You get to decide who you allow to take up your time.
You are allowed to put boundaries in to protect yourself. You should put boundaries in to make yourself feel safe.
You should stop feeling guilty because you don’t agree with other people. You should stop people from wasting your time. Your time is so incredibly valuable and it is time for us to stop giving our time to people who don’t deserve it. Time is a commodity just like money.
We need to show up in our real lives every single day and know that it’s not perfect, some days it’s not even pretty. But we need to make the most of each day and do the best that we can.
We need to stop worrying about what everyone is doing or what everyone else has! Put your blinders on, put your phone down and go out and live your life.
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