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Year after year I try to figure out exactly how I want to celebrate Mother’s Day. I feel like I never have a good answer. I always feel like there is supposed to be some well thought out plan or some way that I am dying to spend Mother’s Day. But there isn’t. There is always the feeling of being torn between what you want to do and then needing to show up for your own mother and the other mothers that influence you.
All mothers struggle with asking for what we want and need. So today when we ask for certain things, really tune in and listen to what we are asking for and to what we might be trying to ask for without really saying it.
Here are some of the things that we ask for and what it truly means:
We say we want a break. What we mean is we need to know that we are supported. We need to know that we have a village to lean on. We need our kids fathers to be there, we need our husbands or our significant others to be there, we need our parents to be there, or our best friends. We need to know that we are not in this alone.
We ask for gifts but it’s not gifts that we need. What we are looking for is reassurance that we are doing a good job. We need something to quiet the voices of self doubt in our heads.
We ask for pedicures, massages and other forms of self care. What we are looking for is to take care of ourselves. Sometimes we just need a minute to take care of ourselves so that we can continue taking care of everyone else.
We ask to get our hair done. What we want is to know that we are beautiful even though our bodies have changed so much. Kids will do that to you. They change you in so many ways but they physically alter your body in ways that only celebrities get back.
We ask for time to go for a run (ok some of us ask this). What we want to know is that we are strong. We also want to know that physically someone will still be attracted to us. (see above).
We ask for someone - anyone else to make dinner. What we are asking for is for someone to take care of us too. Being a Mom is the hardest job we have ever had and we sometimes just need someone to mom us too.
We ask for the house to be cleaned. What we are asking for is that you see how hard we work and that we have taught you about work ethic and that if anything happens to us you will be able to take care of yourselves.
We ask for Starbucks in our hand and a trip around the local Target. What we are really asking for is the fuel to keep going and well Target is just magical to us moms. Target is a magical place where we can leave our worries at the door and just walk up and down the aisles looking for things not just that our family needs but that will bring us and our families that joy that only Target can. It’s kind of like Disney World for grown ups, except a little cheaper.
All we really want for Mother’s Day is to know that we are doing ok! So take a minute today and tell the mothers that you know that they are doing a great job!
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